For the last week my S/O has been dreading the afternoon. That is usually pick up time for my 6yr old and 10 yr old from camp. He often comments that he wants to drop our son who is 6 off at home before he goes to pick up our 10 year old daughter from her camp. He is usually in a bad mood after pick up time and some days even after drop off in the morning.
You see here is the thing our kids have issues. Our little Blockhead who is sick was diagnosed at about 3 or 4 with autism. A year or so later came an early ADHD diagnosis. There was some mention of PDD, speech delay, sensory issues and maybe some other stuff. I struggled with early intervention, therapies and just his general day to day care for years with lots of tears. Then one day after having some issues on and off during the school year I was totally blindsided by an ADHD diagnosis in my daughter. Well I can't say that I was totally blindsided because she had been seeing a therapist for about six months prior to the diagnosis, but I thought maybe she was just a little anxious.
While they both have an ADHD it's like night and day. She takes medication and that seems to help. He does not take medication for his ADHD, but he does take lots of medication. He has asthma so he has a few meds that he takes for that. He is allergic to almost everything so he has his meds for that. Oh and did I mention that he does not sleep, so he also takes meds for that. There is still the issue of his impulsive behavior and his hyperactivity. We're still dealing with that. My daughter has her one pill that she is supposed to take every morning and that goes well if she takes it. If she doesn't then some one is gonna have a bad day and her target is usually our son. She does sleep which is great, eating is another blog post all together. We have literally been told by her shrink to allow her to eat whatever she wants just as long as she eats because she is a little on the thin side.
So today my S/O came home after picking up both kids from camp and he was quite upset. He began ranting to me and our 16 year old saying, "I don't know how yall do it with these two." We laughed and asked him what happened. He began telling us the story of how they fought all the way home. He told us how little Blockhead was completely oblivious of other people when they were on the train together, how he had completely run over a lady and her stroller when they were on the train. Then when he finally picked up Luv bug of course she wanted ice cream and was a bit upset when she had to settle for an icee. Blockhead of course wanted all of the flavors together even coconut which he is allergic to. Then when they got on the train Luv bug preceded to ask him her usually line of inappropriate questions. The questions are usually the kind that would be ok if we were in the comforts of our own home but on a crowded train they can be down right embarrassing. Things like," Daddy when do we pay the cable bill because I haven't seen anyone write a check?" Or "Daddy why do you have that shirt on you know mommy doesn't like when you wear that outside." Then when they are walking down the block and little Blockhead get to far she likes to run up behind him and grab him by the back of his shirt.
We also had to hear stories of how little Blockhead eats when he takes them to breakfast in the morning. It's not really any different from the way he eats at home. He wants everything and all at once. He shovels it all in, rarely uses utensils and I'm not sure if he chews more than once or twice no matter what he eats. We've all witnessed how he eats both in the house and outside and although sometimes it can be a little embarrassing but for the most part I'm over it. We go out he does what he does and I'm fine with it.
I don't think that anyone in our house has the patience that I do. I tend ignore a lot of the shenanigans these two get into, as long as they aren't hurting each other or themselves. They are both excellent students and although she is only going to the 5th grade little Luv bug is already reading on an 8th grade level. Blockhead is great with any type of data. We can literally ask him how to get anywhere in the city by train and even if he has never been there he can tell you what train to take. It's a work in progress dealing with their issues everyday, but somehow we get through it.